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To Forgive Or NOT To Forgive Your Abuser or Offender? 3 Benefits of Forgiving And 3 Dangers of Not Forgiving

Forgiveness is a topic that is hard for people to come to terms with. Many people have their own views and opinions about forgiveness. Whether you choose to forgive your abuser or offender or you choose not to forgive, the choice is yours. Forgiveness is a choice. But before you decide whether to forgive or not to forgive, first read the benefits of forgiving and dangers of not forgiving. This will enable you to make a better-informed decision.

Firstly, what is forgiveness? Forgiveness according to Wikipedia, is typically defined as the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution.

Forgiveness does not change the past but it changes the pain of the past and—unlocks the door to the future.

If you are out of harmony with anyone;

If you have been caused unhappiness in the past for which you are still holding a grudge;

If you feel you have been unjustly treated in financial or private matters;

If you feel that some loss has robbed you of the happiness that should have been yours by divine right;

If you have been abused be it sexual or domestic abuse;

If you feel strongly about unhappy childhood and family experiences – you may have every human reason for your feelings, and for continuing to nurse them.

You may be able to justify those feelings in a thousand ways, but you mainly hurt yourself by holding the grudge. Your health, prosperity, happiness, and peace of mind can and will be destroyed if you continue to harbour negative emotions.

It’s probably true to say that most of us have been hurt in someway in our childhood. Too often we remain, to a greater extent, bound and oppressed by the resulting negative emotions and feelings from the past. These arise from our memory of the hurts that may be stored in our conscious or subconscious. So we have difficulty in living in peace with ourselves; and when we marry we may both bring this “baggage” of anxiety, rejection, anger, inferiority or low self-image into our relationship, with often disastrous results, and probably without knowing why.

If you now are in a state of ill health, there maybe something, somebody or some memory you need to forgive and release from your feelings forever. Perhaps you are not consciously aware of what it is. But your subconscious mind, which is the storehouse of your feelings, emotions, and memories, knows what it is. It will respond with release and healing when you give yourself treatments in forgiveness and by using the following affirmation; ““I fully and freely forgive. I loose and let go. I let go and let God’s (or Universe’s) love do its perfect work in me, through me, for me. I let go and let God’s (or Universe’s) love do its perfect work in the conscious, subconscious and super conscious activities of my mind, body and affairs. I give thanks that peace, health, plenty and happiness now reign supreme in me and my world.”

Philosophers and sages of all times have tried to point out that man’s health is controlled by his attitudes toward himself and others. Hippocrates, the 4th century Greek physician, wrote: “men ought to know that from the brain and from the brain only arise our pleasures, laughters and jests, as well as our sorrows, grieves and fears.” Plato declared, “If the head and the body are to be well, you must begin by curing the soul.”

Bitterness, unbelief, impatience, passivity, chronic unmet needs, resentment, rebellion, tension, hatred, jealousy, sickness, depression, addiction, blame, despair are all evil fruits of unforgiveness. They are all devastating to our relationship with God or Universe and with one another.

On the other hand, unconditional love, mercy, grace, kindness, humility, joy, peace, wisdom, patience, freedom, faithfulness, integrity, flexibility are all good fruits of forgiveness. They preserve our relationship with God or Universe and with one another.

3 BENEFITS OF FORGIVING

1. Freedom to move on in your life

2. Freedom to love freely without fear or holding back

3. You break the chain of bondage the abuser or offender holds over you

3 DANGERS OF NOT FORGIVING

1. You are trapped in the abuser or offender’s bondage and you are letting them control you long after the event has passed.

2. Your health is at risk. You may experience bouts of depression, mental torture and even cancer. Some forms of cancer has been known to be caused by hatred. If you hate your abuser or offender so much with passion, you could get cancer that might lead to your death. The offender is not affected, just you.

3. You deny yourself freedom to happiness, love and peace

3 STEP PROCESS TO FORGIVENESS

1. Honour the pain of the journey

· Acknowledge the pain, anger, guilt, shame and all negative feelings caused by the hurt

· Accept the pain, anger, guilt, shame and all negative feelings without unloading them unto the abuser or offender

· Try and understand that the abuser or offender only behaved according to their level of knowledge, understanding and awareness

2. Forgive & heal Yourself First

· Forgive yourself first for any guilt, shame or negative feelings you may still have

· Replace the pain with love. This starts giving you a sense of peace.

3. Forgive the abuser or offender

· Make a conscious decision to forgive the abuser or offender. Use affirmations such as “I choose to forgive (insert name of abuser or offender here). I release and let go. You are free and I am free.”

· Recognise that forgiving the abuser or offender is for you not them.

· They don’t have to know that you’ve forgiven them and you do not have to tell them

· Recognise that there maybe a hidden message in that experience

· Each time any pain comes up, repeat the affirmation above over and over again or any other you find comforting or helpful.

· Acknowledge that it will take time and be patient with yourself.

· Extend compassion to the abuser or offender therefore releasing you from the offense.

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

When we look after our health, we think about diet & fitness, and getting regular checkups. But our emotions can affect our health, too. If you have been holding a grudge or two, it may be hurting you physically as well as psychologically. The cure? Forgiveness. Recent studies have shown that practicing forgiveness can have a positive effect on our health.

Other Health benefits of Forgiveness

· According to a study at Duke University Medical Center, people who have forgiven others experience lower levels of physical pain, anger, and depression.

· In the study, people with chronic back pain felt less pain and anxiety when they used meditation to help them forgive and release their anger.

· Forgiveness may also benefit your heart. Researchers at the University of Tennessee have found a connection between being forgiving and blood pressure and stress. According to the study, people who forgave more easily had a lower resting blood pressure and heart rate than people who did not forgive as easily. In addition, people who were rated as “high forgivers” were more likely to work harder to resolve conflict. As a result, they also tended to have stronger relationships.

· Forgiveness is also healing. Research suggests that the ability to forgive yourself and others can boost your immune system and help you to recover more quickly from illness or disease.

· Holding a grudge is like putting your body through a major stressful event. Your blood pressure rises, your muscles tense, and you sweat more. When you forgive the grudge, your body can relax and release the stress.

· Forgiveness may be so healing because it is an antidote to anger, anger has been shown to be detrimental to your health. A study in an issue of Neurology has found that anger and negative emotions can precede a stroke. In the study, people who had strokes were more likely to experience these feelings in the two hours prior to the stroke.

· In addition to the physical benefits, letting go of anger by practicing forgiveness can enrich your relationships and ultimately help you to be a happier person.

Other Methods of Forgiving

Forgiveness can seem very difficult, but researchers have found that it is a skill that can be learned. There are many methods you can try, including meditation, visualization and simply talking it out with a trusted friend or counsellor.

When the going gets though, be your own coach and pump yourself up. Remind yourself how forgiveness will help you:

1. We tend to equate forgiveness with weakness, but in reality, it takes a strong person to forgive.

2. When you hold a grudge, you are making the other person responsible for your happiness and allowing your anger toward them to control you. But when you forgive someone, you take responsibility for your own happiness and are no longer controlled by your anger.

3.Forgiveness is a gift to the other person, but also to yourself, because you free yourself from the anger.

4. Forgiveness is the freedom to move on.

WHAT FORGIVENESS IS NOT

Forgiveness is best understood in the context of related activities. Sometimes forgiveness may be associated with one or more of the below activities, but it is a separate act.

1. Forgiveness is not necessarily reconciliation, it can be a gift that the other either accepts or rejects or does not even know about. It is in the heart of the forgiver. For reconciliation, two people are needed and then the relationship between them needs to be restored. For reconciliation, forgiveness is needed.

2. Forgiveness is not pardoning, for pardoning is a transaction, often a legal one, which releases the injuring person from the consequences of his or her injurious actions. In pardoning, the pardoner takes on or blots out the loss caused by the damaging situation. In many publications, the term forgiveness is used when pardoning may be more accurate.

3. Forgiveness is not condoning, for it does not excuse harmful behaviour. It just deals with it.

4. Forgiveness is not forgetting, for deep hurts usually cannot be wiped out of one’s memory.

To help you further, apply the 3-Step process to forgiveness to a situation in your life that you may be battling whether to forgive or not to forgive.

Revenge is natural. Forgiveness is supernatural Paul Carlin

It took me 9 years to forgive my ex-husband who abused me for four and half years. That is double the number of years I was married and abused by him. I wish I knew what I know now about forgiveness and its benefits.

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Obama on Death of Osama Bin Laden

Obama may have brought down America’s Number one terrorist Osama Bin Laden to the relief of the nation. But the nation’s greatest secret enemy, in fact the world’s secret enemy – domestic violence, still lives in millions of homes around the world.

Osama may have scored 0, but domestic violence still scores 3 every day in America. That’s 3 women killed every day because of domestic violence in the US. Osama may have scored 0, but domestic violence still scores 2 a week in the UK. That’s 2 women killed every week in the UK due to domestic violence.  Osama may have scored 0, but domestic violence still scores 24 in Russia. That’s one woman killed every hour every day in Russia due to domestic violence according to statistics. We want the score to change to Obama 1, Domestic Violence 0 in the US. Prime Minister 1, domestic violence 0 in the UK and Russia. Other countries presidents and prime ministers scoring 1 and domestic violence scoring 0.

Domestic violence is terrorism by family members and spouses to their victims. This internal hidden terrorism is more dangerous than any externally known terrorism because women – the victims, the backbone of the family- have little or no way of knowing when the enemy will strike and destroy her and her family.

The government needs to tackle this internal hidden terrorism called domestic violence against women with same gravity as external terrorism. It costs less because there is no need for external intelligence. The victims are the Secret Agents. The victims’ injuries are the Secret Intelligence. The perpetrators are the Osama’s of this hidden Al-Qaeda – domestic violence.

All the factors: states, counties, districts, homes and individual number of victims known and unknown are clear evidence of this crippling terrorism in most American homes.

The government has to act NOW. They have to strike now to destroy the bas***d before it causes more atrocity than Osama Bin Laden.


We all want domestic violence to be brought to justice just like Osama. And everyone wants to celebrate the eradication of this terrorist that has lived in millions of homes for decades or longer. Probably longer than Osama had been a threat to America and other western world.

Here the government sits, and it is time for the US President to give a command to bring down this Number One World crippling terrorism after Osama Bin Laden. The government of other nations should give command to eradicate domestic violence.

We urge the government to provide more shelters, resources and care facilities to women victims of domestic violence. To provide more training on self-esteem & self-confidence to survivors and their children. To educate our youths especially in schools and college about domestic violence to help prevent domestic violence in future generations.

We urge employers to be more understanding and provide safe working environment for women staff and victims. We urge neighbours to be on the look out for this enemy so well know and report it to the police. Most importantly, we urge you the Secret Agents – victims of domestic- to have the courage and take number one responsibility to report the enemy attack against you so we all can take this enemy out and celebrate.

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It Is My Life And I’m In Charge

Are You In Charge Of Your Life

I am sharing part-one of a chapter from my new book It Is My Life And I’m In Charge.

CHAPTER TWO
Coming To England

I arrived in England and was equally shocked and awed
by the autumn weather. I wrote to my parents describing all
the new and ‘better’ things in England. Maybe this might
just work out after all and I would get the lifestyle I always
dreamed of in England. I did not tell them about Simon’s
ex-wife. I don’t remember why. Maybe I didn’t want them
to be worried, perhaps I didn’t want to admit it myself, or
possibly I didn’t think it was important because it was in the
past and done. I also wrote to Jim telling him how I missed
him. I promised him that once I had the baby we would start
working on our plan.
Three and half months later, I gave birth to my first baby.
That winter I saw both my beautiful baby boy and snow for
the first time ever. In fact, it snowed on the day I gave birth
and it didn’t stop for three days. I was in the hospital the
entire time. On the third day we went home. Simon held the
baby because I was afraid of dropping him if I slipped in the
snow. I wasn’t about to take any chances.

Controlling Behaviour
Soon after my son was born I got a response to my letter
from Jim. He told me how much he missed me. Simon had
intercepted my letter and read it before handing it to me. I
could not believe he read my letter before me, especially this
letter from Jim. He interrogated me about the letter. Finally
he told me that Jim could not do much with me since I was
so far away; unless his penis was as long as the distance
from Nigeria to England.
I was hurt by Simon’s invasion of my privacy and told
him I did not like him reading my letters. That did not stop
him. He opened and read all mail that came for me. So I
wrote to Jim telling him that it was not a good idea to keep
writing me. I explained how Simon was reading all my mail
and it might cause problems for us. I didn’t want our plan
to be jeopardised. That letter that Simon intercepted was the
first and only letter I got from Jim. I cherished it so much
and would read it over and over. It was my comfort and
solace when Simon would try to harm me with his spiteful,
mean words.
I had been in England, a strange country, for only four
months with a new baby. I had no friends or family. My
husband was a stranger who controlled me and censored all
my letters and called me vile names. Plus, I had not been
going to church so I began to feel as though I was losing my
spiritual connection with God.
The nearest Catholic Church was two bus rides away
and I couldn’t drive. Simon worked on Sundays or Saturday

nights and claimed he was too tired to drive me to church.
I kept asking him to drive me but Simon kept refusing.
Since the baby was born I began to miss church increasingly
more. This made me anxious because I wanted the
baby to be christened and Thanksgiving was important too.
I kept persisting that Simon should take me and reminded
him of his commitments he’d made to my parents and I back
in Nigeria. He had promised to take me to church because
he knew I was very religious. I also reminded him that he
promised my parents and I that we would be wed in the
Catholic Church as soon as I give birth and we would raise
our children as Catholics. Simon had assured me that I could
take the children to any church I wanted and he didn’t mind
because he didn’t have time for church.
In the end, Simon was not interested in the baby’s christening
or Thanksgiving. He certainly wasn’t interested in
taking me to church and finally told me so. That’s when he
threw in that he was a Jehovah’s Witness and wanted our
children to be raised the same. That meant they would have
to be adults to be baptised. Simon continued with his feelings
and revealed to me that he had no intention of wedding
me. He only made that promise to make my parents and I
happy so that the marriage would take place. He went on to
say that not all promises made to a woman before marriage
needed to be fulfilled.
This hurt me and I felt deceived. I was deceived, but
there was more. He went on to say that he didn’t even approve
of me going to church. As a Jehovah’s Witness he
didn’t even have the time to attend their meetings and that
meant that I shouldn’t go anywhere near my church or even
consider working. He continued by saying the only friends
I could have needed to be approved by him and I needed
permission to see them. When I asked why, he said it was
because his ex-wife was allowed to mix with other people
and she got corrupted from their behaviour. She felt that
she had wised up and ended up leaving him and filed for
divorce. Simon saw this as a disgrace and promised himself
that it would not happen to him again. Simon claimed that
the divorce was the reason why he was forced to sell his
property in South Wales, where he and his ex-wife lived
before moving to London. They only moved to London because
she requested it. Simon continued to say that the loss
of his property, combined with a divorce, made him vow to
never let anyone he married mix with other people. This rule
especially applied to associating with Ghanaians. He was
very bitter and upset as he spoke. I told him I was a different
person and it hurt to be punished for someone else’s wrongs.
He refused to see the common sense and ignored my pleas.
* * *

To get your copy of this book visit my website. Also from Amazon UK, Amazon US, Barnes & Nobles and all good bookstores.

Ten percent of profits from this book goes to the following Charities:  Women’s Aid, Refuge and Nigeria Women’s Aid.

Show your support in eradicating domestic violence.

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A Woman’s Most Dreaded Christmas Present

Imagine being ‘homeless’ on Christmas Day without food, Christmas presents and worst still you have to hide for fear of being killed!

16 years ago at 2.15am I had to flee from a violent husband. I spent that November night freezing in a car till 7am before going to wake my friends next door to me. Two days later I ended up in a Sheltered Housing with my three children who were then three and half years old, two years and 5 months old.

Yes, we spent Christmas in Sheltered Housing away from the comfort of our home without friends knowing where we were for fear that my abuser would find me and kill me. I was fleeing an abusive husband and had to take my children to safety to prevent him abusing them too.

For Christmas that year, my children got presents from Barnados Charity which my Health Visitor brought to us three days before Christmas. For Christmas dinner all we had was rice, I don’t remember if we had any form of meat. For drinks we had just water. There was no luxury of Christmas crackers, pies, puddings, decorations etc.

I didn’t get any Present that Christmas but I was glad to be alive and safe.

This Christmas many women may not be so lucky. Many women will be abused this season even on Christmas Day.

This Christmas as you are buying, giving and receiving gifts and cards remember all those families at war. There will be women and children who have to seek refuge to get away from domestic violence the ‘hidden plague’.

It is good to do something different this Christmas by helping families by donating to Women Refuge Charities, helping out when you can and better still to be there if any woman needs your immediate help while being abused. The immediate help you can offer is to dial 999 and ask for the police when you hear disturbance or suspect a woman is been abused. You can also find out other ways you can help by visiting http://felicityokolo.com/blog/. For more detailed information and tips on domestic violence awareness, coping, surviving and leaving domestic violence, dealing with your emotions, increasing your safety and improving your self-esteem and self-confidence visit http://survivingdomesticviolence.info/ to download a FREE ebook.

Now as a Life Coach, Transformational Speaker and Author working with women, I come across many women who have or are currently experiencing domestic violence. If you are one of them or know someone, I want you to know that help is available: online, offline – Citizens Advice Bureaux, Women’s Aid and in emergency call 999 in UK or 911 if in the US.

Domestic violence ignores all limitations. It is no respecter of age, race, culture, religion or position. In the United Kingdom alone, two women are killed a week by a male partner. One in four women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime. One incident of domestic violence is reported to the police every minute. These statistics are in accordance with the findings of the Women’s Aid Charity.

Domestic violence is called by many names. It is referred to as:

· domestic abuse

· battering

· intimate partner violence

No matter what name you give this ugly violence you must know this one thing. “It is a pattern of controlling and aggressive behaviours from one adult towards another within the context of an intimate relationship.” It can be physical, sexual, psychological or emotional abuse. Financial abuse and social isolation are also common traits that can be found within domestic violence.


In the United States also one in four women will experience domestic violence in their lifetime according to National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV). Also according to the U.S. Department of Justice’s National Crime Victimization Survey (NCVS), a domestic violence act occurs every 15 seconds in the United States resulting in about 2.5 million women experiencing domestic violence each year. On average three women are killed every day in the U.S due to domestic violence according to The National Organisation for Women.

STAY SAFE THIS FESTIVE SEASON

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How You Can Help Domestic Violence Victims

YOUR HELP AS A FRIEND OR RELATIVE

People often feel awkward about ‘taking sides’ and try to keep out of it, saying ‘it’s not really any of my business’. Friends and family may think that they are being ‘neutral’ but ignoring it

1. If you think a friend or loved one is being abused, try telling them that you’re concerned, say why you’re worried and ask if they want to talk to you about it. Let them know you want to help. You don’t have to know all the answers. The important thing is to break the isolation.

2. Always prioritise safety – yours and theirs. The abuser won’t appreciate you getting involved so be careful about what you do and where and when you do it.

3. Support your friend in whatever decision they’re currently making about their relationship, whilst being clear that the abuse is wrong. Remember, what you are trying to do is be supportive, not to make them feel judged. It’s not always easy for people to just leave.

4. Maintain contact with them overtime and help them to explore their options. Let them guide you in how best to support them.

5. Help them to build their self-esteem; remind them of their good points, challenge them if they put down or blame themselves, praise them for every step they take and let them know they have your support.

Practical tips

1. Agree a code word or action that if they say to you or you see, you know they’re in danger and cannot access help themselves.

2. Offer to keep copies of important documents and other items  so that if they have to leave in a hurry, they don’t have to waste time collecting important belongings.

3. Find out information  for them so they can make informed choices.

4. Get some support yourself. You have to be strong if you’re going to be able to help them. Most domestic violence services are happy to help with any worries you may have or provide suggestions as to other actions you might take.

Most importantly, don’t give up on them. You might be their only lifeline.

YOUR HELP AS A NEIGHBOUR OR SOMEONE WHO CARES

If you suspect a neighbour is being abused, there are some steps you could take

1. In an emergency dial 999

2. Talk to your neighbour and explain that you’re concerned and ask them if there is any way that you can help. For example, you could agree a code word or signal they could make when they are in need of help.

3. Let your neighbour and the children know they can run to you if they need to leave the house immediately. However, these situations can be highly dangerous so remember to keep yourself safe. Confronting the abuser is not a good idea.

4. Offer to keep copies of important documents and other items  so that if they have to leave in a hurry, they don’t have to waste time collecting important belongings.

5. Find out information  for them so they can make informed choices.


YOUR HELP AS A SERVICE PROVIDER

If you’re a health professional or work in counselling you may come into contact with people who’ve experienced domestic violence. So how can you help?

Exactly what you can do will depend on your organisation but below are some basic good practice points for all agencies when dealing with domestic violence.

1. If you think a friend or loved one is being abused, try telling them that you’re concerned, say why you’re worried and ask if they want to talk to you about it. Let them know you want to help. You don’t have to know all the answers. The important thing is to break the isolation.

2. Recognise that domestic violence is a serious problem.

3. Whatever your job, try to see the person separately from their partner.

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Knowing Yourself

Recently, I have come to understand that one of the many reasons why people fail in relationships, business/job/career or life in general is because they do not ‘know who they are’.  For someone to understand who they really are is like laying solid foundation for a building.  That building in this case is their life.  Without a solid foundation a building ‘their life’ will crumble every time little wind blows, having them to be constantly rebuilding and sometime not being able to fix/rebuild themselves properly.

First step in knowing yourself is to understand you are like your Creator who is Love.  Knowing that you are Love just like your Creator, if someone tells you they don’t love you, why should that bother you?  As long as you love yourself, your Creator loves you and you are Love, someone else is out there you will appreciate and love you back as you deserve.

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EXPLANATION OF GOD

I want to share an eight year old explanation of God with you.  It is funny and very creative, read on and see it from the mind of this child.

EXPLANATION OF GOD:
‘One of God’s main jobs is making people. He makes them to replace the ones that die, so there will be enough people to take care of things on earth. He doesn’t make grownups, just babies. I think because they are smaller and easier to make. That way he doesn’t have to take up his valuable time teaching them to talk and walk. He can just leave that to mothers and fathers.’
‘God’s second most important job is listening to prayers. An awful lot of this goes on, since some people, like preachers and things, pray at times beside bedtime. God doesn’t have time to listen to the radio or TV because of this. Because he hears everything, there must be a terrible lot of noise in his ears, unless he has thought of a way to turn it off.’
‘God sees everything and hears everything and is everywhere which keeps Him pretty busy. So you shouldn’t go wasting his time by going over your mom and dad’s head asking for something they said you couldn’t have.’
‘Atheists are people who don’t believe in God. I don’t think there are any in Chula Vista . At least there aren’t any who come to our church.’
‘Jesus is God’s Son. He used to do all the hard work, like walking on water and performing miracles and trying to teach the people who didn’t want to learn about God. They finally got tired of him preaching to them and they crucified him But he was good and kind, like his father, and he told his father that they didn’t know what they were doing and to forgive them and God said O.K.’

‘His dad (God) appreciated everything that he had done and all his hard work on earth so he told him he didn’t have to go out on the road anymore. He could stay in heaven. So he did. And now he helps his dad out by listening to prayers and seeing things which are important for God to take care of and which ones he can take care of himself without having to bother God. Like a secretary, only more important.’
‘You can pray anytime you want and they are sure to help you because they got it worked out so one of them is on duty all the time.’
‘You should always go to church on Sunday because it makes God happy, and if there’s anybody you want to make happy, it’s God!
Don’t skip church to do something you think will be more fun like going to the beach. This is wrong. And besides the sun doesn’t come out at the beach until noon anyway.’
‘If you don’t believe in God, besides being an atheist, you will be very lonely, because your parents can’t go everywhere with you, like to camp, but God can. It is good to know He’s around you when you’re scared, in the dark or when you can’t swim and you get thrown into real deep water by big kids.’
‘But…you shouldn’t just always think of what God can do for you. I figure God put me here and he can take me back anytime he pleases.

And…that’s why I believe in God.’

By Danny Dutton

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Working from Home

I think and many people believe that working from home is very good for families.  You get to spend more time with family, work in your PJ if you want to, have home cooked lunch, be around to welcome the children when they come back from school, get up a little later etc.

Just the other day my husband told me that Michelle Obama said that she and their children get to see Barack Obama more that he is president than when he was a Senator.  I said to him that’s because Obama now works from home :)   and guess what, so does the UK Prime Minister. What other Prime Ministers or Presidents work from home?   Well if it’s OK for them to work from home why not you or me?

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Breast cancer deaths record low in UK

It is interesting to learn that the number of women dying of  breast cancer in the UK has fallen according to the BBC report today.

The policy manager at Breakthrough Breast Cancer, Dr Sarah Cant said: “It is great news that fewer women are dying from breast cancer and highlights the impact of improved treatments, breast screening and awareness of the disease.

She went on further by saying, “However, this is still too many women and incidence of the disease is increasing year-on-year.”

Incidence of the disease is increasing year-on-year, and this is not just breast cancer but other forms of cancer such as brain cancer.

I think more should be done in preventing cancer instead of spending more money in cancer treatments.  Prevention is better than cure as the old saying goes. 

When people finally get to understand that cancer is connected with “hate” and to prevent cancer they have to eliminate hate from their lives and show more love, then we will start seeing rate of cancer diagnosis fall for good.

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Cancer a “HATE” disease

Most People may not be aware and may find it hard to believe or accept, but I will tell the truth as it is.

Apart from a tiny percentage of environmental or external conditions that are linked to cause cancer, cancer is basically a “HATE” disease. (watch the video on the link below for more info.)

I recommend getting  rid of hate.  Start forgiving, start loving.

DO NOT HATE period.

Hate itself is as disease.  I think to hate is a sin and if you hate somebody, you hurt no one except yourself, because hate eats you up inside.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JcR4xHkHxHY

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